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Offline AppleSauce
« Reply #30 - Posted 2014-06-02 17:54:08 »

Well she told everyone she knows appearently. Now everyone who knows her is asking. I'm being made fun of like always but this time it hurts my stomache  Emo
Offline philfrei
« Reply #31 - Posted 2014-06-02 18:23:10 »

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She's the only girl in the school i like. The first to give me a chance. She slow danced and hugged me twice. Never happened to me before.I'm not a confident guy either.

Some thoughts that spring to my mind which may or may not apply:

Your class size will increase by an order of magnitude in college. the chance of only liking one person from such a larger pool is significantly reduced. Plus, there is a greater age differential that is considered acceptable, which bumps up odds of meeting interesting potential partners by another factor . This age differential factor increasingly works to your benefit as you progress through school.

True, the fact that older men with younger women is more generally accepted than younger men with older women gives male freshman slightly worse odds than freshmen women. Even so, odds are still significantly better than most High School situations.

Many people approach things in a try-and-buy fashion, or are simply out to enjoy themselves or "learn more about life and people" before getting into deeper commitments. There's an inevitable risk/reward ratio in meeting people. More likely than not, a match does not result (or only lasts a very short time) and one side experiences rejection. A decent person will try to minimize hurting others.

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Offline saucymeatman
« Reply #32 - Posted 2014-06-02 19:38:54 »

If you absolutely can not deal with it anymore after waiting at least two weeks, you have options.

Pick a guy that makes fun of you more than the others. Wait for him to say something. Punch him and aim for the nose, hit him a bunch of times if you want. Your principal will side with you when you use the word 'bullying' to describe the other kids behavior. Use that word a bunch. If you dont want the girl dragged into the mess, or your parents to know the gritty details of the whole affair, dont give specifics on how he would make fun of you. He will never say anything you dont like to you again. You will be given a light punishment, a couple days of in school suspension.
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Offline Slyth2727
« Reply #33 - Posted 2014-06-02 19:57:47 »

If you absolutely can not deal with it anymore after waiting at least two weeks, you have options.

Pick a guy that makes fun of you more than the others. Wait for him to say something. Punch him and aim for the nose, hit him a bunch of times if you want. Your principal will side with you when you use the word 'bullying' to describe the other kids behavior. Use that word a bunch. If you dont want the girl dragged into the mess, or your parents to know the gritty details of the whole affair, dont give specifics on how he would make fun of you. He will never say anything you dont like to you again. You will be given a light punishment, a couple days of in school suspension.

However even that goes on a record somewhere. I would just ignore it completely, people can't make fun of you or say anything for extended periods of time without motivation to do so. Ignoring it is the more mature way to go.

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« Reply #34 - Posted 2014-06-02 20:02:01 »

If you absolutely can not deal with it anymore after waiting at least two weeks, you have options.

Pick a guy that makes fun of you more than the others. Wait for him to say something. Punch him and aim for the nose, hit him a bunch of times if you want. Your principal will side with you when you use the word 'bullying' to describe the other kids behavior. Use that word a bunch. If you dont want the girl dragged into the mess, or your parents to know the gritty details of the whole affair, dont give specifics on how he would make fun of you. He will never say anything you dont like to you again. You will be given a light punishment, a couple days of in school suspension.

However even that goes on a record somewhere. I would just ignore it completely, people can't make fun of you or say anything for extended periods of time without motivation to do so. Ignoring it is the more mature way to go.

Lack of reaction is the best reaction. When it comes to dumbasses people picking on other's, lack of response will almost always end in lack of attempt after a while.

Because psychology:
http://psychology.about.com/od/behavioralpsychology/a/classcondbasics.htm
Read "Extinction" primarily. Assuming the conditioned response to them picking on you is your reaction, remove your reaction and eventually Extinction occurs.

Sad fact: All human emotions can be dwindled down to base components, no matter how much people don't want to believe it. We're all very simple creatures at our core. Wink

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« Reply #35 - Posted 2014-06-02 20:12:57 »

Pick a guy that makes fun of you more than the others. Wait for him to say something. Punch him and aim for the nose, hit him a bunch of times if you want. Your principal will side with you when you use the word 'bullying' to describe the other kids behavior. Use that word a bunch. If you dont want the girl dragged into the mess, or your parents to know the gritty details of the whole affair, dont give specifics on how he would make fun of you. He will never say anything you dont like to you again. You will be given a light punishment, a couple days of in school suspension.
You can't be serious. I have no words for how dumb of a "suggestion" this is. You hit someone who makes fun of you, he and his friends will hit back, aka you will be harassed even more than before. The principal will absolutely not excuse it - the only situation where it's acceptable is if you're defending yourself from serious physical abuse, and even then you'll still probably get a suspension. Suspensions and school fights do stay on your school record, which will affect the choices colleges make. By trying to "fight" back, you're only showing how he's getting to you, and as a result also killing your own chances for the future.
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« Reply #36 - Posted 2014-06-02 21:07:28 »

Pick a guy that makes fun of you more than the others. Wait for him to say something. Punch him and aim for the nose, hit him a bunch of times if you want. Your principal will side with you when you use the word 'bullying' to describe the other kids behavior. Use that word a bunch. If you dont want the girl dragged into the mess, or your parents to know the gritty details of the whole affair, dont give specifics on how he would make fun of you. He will never say anything you dont like to you again. You will be given a light punishment, a couple days of in school suspension.
You can't be serious. I have no words for how dumb of a "suggestion" this is. You hit someone who makes fun of you, he and his friends will hit back, aka you will be harassed even more than before. The principal will absolutely not excuse it - the only situation where it's acceptable is if you're defending yourself from serious physical abuse, and even then you'll still probably get a suspension. Suspensions and school fights do stay on your school record, which will affect the choices colleges make. By trying to "fight" back, you're only showing how he's getting to you, and as a result also killing your own chances for the future.
Adding to that, and combining it with what Rayvolution said: If you punch the bully, you give him an even better reason to bully you.
Simple advice: Just don't do it. It's exactly the opposite of what you should do!

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« Reply #37 - Posted 2014-06-02 21:30:08 »

She has another crush and i told her all my feelings. She said i deserve someone better but that's just a way of saying " i don't like you like that"
This actually means you deserve someone better. Sometimes you need to listen instead of hearing what you want to hear.

Offline AppleSauce
« Reply #38 - Posted 2014-06-02 21:32:15 »

She has another crush and i told her all my feelings. She said i deserve someone better but that's just a way of saying " i don't like you like that"
This actually means you deserve someone better. Sometimes you need to listen instead of hearing what you want to hear.


But isn't this just putting one down easily? She should know she's a good person. She even told my friend she doesn't like me like that
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« Reply #39 - Posted 2014-06-02 21:43:32 »

You're the only one here that knows the full situation well. You need to make the decisions yourself. The best we can do is give general advice.

Probably best to ask a close friend what they think.

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