Hi
I used lots of 3D engines and I tried to support both JMonkeyEngine 3 and Ardor3D some months ago, I finally decided to focus only on Ardor3D. You can avoid tightly bounding your game to a given engine but it is quite difficult and it might increase the memory footprint of your game. I advise you to keep a copy of all models in a format that does not depend on a modeler or an engine, for example Collada, MD2, MD3, MD5, MDL or even OBJ + MTL for static objects.
If I were you, I would spend some weeks or months to choose an engine and stick to it instead of using 4 or 5 different engines during almost 6 years

Don't spend your whole time in writing abstraction layers above high level APIs.